Marriage/Relationships

I have decided to pen down my thoughts after a really long time.

Why so long you ask-----I just wanted to get away from a lot of stuff that were pulling me down in life.

The hot topic lately is "Marriage/Relationship"- so easy yet so complicated.
The "EASY" part-  Boy meets girl, girl meets boy, boy courts the girl, girl relents, they fall in love, get the parents agree and then well happily ever after. Sometimes relationships fail in one of these steps and does not culminate into marriage. But then again the fun is the whole game of uncertainty and overcoming obstacles to get married.

Now moving on to the "complicated" part- "The happily ever after".

This part does not end up like it does in movies. In reality, there is no happily ever after. Its more like' trying to make it work'. Each day is a different. Some days are oh-so-good that you wish it would never end while some days are not. You give up your independence and your closet to someone new. This stranger slowly takes over your life, your schedule, your work, your clothes, your behavior, even your happiness revolves around this single person. Initially its all fun because you have someone to share your daily happenings with and you look forward to coming home. Once the honeymoon period is over- about 2 years or so after the wedding, the romance wears off....the reality sinks in....slowly you start feeling suffocated. What appealed to you about the person earlier starts to annoy you. You start looking forward to time alone or time with friends.

Well this is the story of every married couple- Everywhere.

Romance, Lust, Friendship, Love, none of it lasts forever. The factors that (may) contribute to the longevity of a marriage are understanding, forgiveness, trust and mutual respect. The trick is to take it one day at a time. Reminds me of the movie '50 First Dates'.  Start your day fresh each new day. Concentrate on the person's positives and not their weaknesses (we all have our weaknesses). Build an unshakeable team. Always remember your spouse and you are a team.

The perfect relationship is not where the partners don't fight but one in which fights or egos don't matter at the end of the day. You may fight with each other endlessly but never let anyone come in the way of your relationship. You need to strive everyday to make your marriage running smooth just like any job. Again, our imperfections make us unique and the perfect relationship is one that will work for us and not that will obtain validation from others.

Life is a beautiful and in the end all we all need is a great enjoyable companionship !!

{ "Lets work on making ours a perfect haven for us"}

Holly-Bolly Gurl

I am back again..after a real long weekend.It was fun cooking and getting together and meeting new people.That's what I did for the weekend.And then on Sunday, they declared a snow-storm warning in the whole of Northeast and Southeast regions of the US.So stayed home on Monday..It was my Mommy's birthday.So sent her flowers.She didn't really appreciate the effort.But its fine.

And I took pictures in the snow..It was fun.The comments were hilarious..

All in all it was a relaxed weekend.Have fun guys.

More to come.

Awakening

I am finally getting better now.The weather is getting warmer as well.It almost feels like summer.The weekend is a day away and this time I have no plans.I think I would rather just stay back and relax home.

There was one thing that's particularly pleasing to us humans;we need to be cared. A very old and dear friend of mine called to check if I was doing fine.That was really really sweet. I mean its always nice to hear from an old acquaintance.And then all the talks we had like old times were so heartwarming to me..And then of course my family, getting to hear from them is always pleasant.Just feels like I exist and I am happy and appreciated and cared for. Not enough adjectives to express feelings. And so the suffering (my sickness) brought with it a very good thing-Family and Friends Closer...

I have thought about my future a lot and I have thought that probably this relationship thing and marriage is not for me.I should probably concentrate on my career for now.Men are just such a waste of time.I am never getting married now.All the emotions,the waste of time,resources,everything rests. I am going to try spend my free time with people in this world,who just like me are craving to be cared.But are ignored by the rest of the world."Old people and "Orphans", they just don't have anyone to call their own. A few minutes of our time with them would mean so much to people. We often end up caring about people who don't care a dime for us and we ignore people who just love us to death. We can just leave aside all them people just for like an hour from our busy lives and spend it with these lesser fortunate people.

I hope I make sense in spreading this awareness.

Keep Smiling Always!!!!!!

The Oscars!!!

My weekend was very boring.I went to the mall on Saturday and just couldn't manage to return the items I had to.It sucks.I brought loads of shirts and had Drunken noodles for dinner.Sunday was relatively slower;I woke up really sick and spent most of the time in bed watching Billoo Barber-waste of time and Dev D.Dev D was a very bold movie-a modern take on the classic Devdas they say.Well I cant argue with the peers,can I?

The best part about the whole weekend was the Oscars!!!SlumDog Millionaire swept off most of the awards.It had 9 nominations and won 8 Oscars.That is something and A.R Rehman won 2 Oscars.Indians couldnt be any prouder.I was glued on to the tube all the while.Cheering for SlumDog the whole time.They say Slumdog isnt an Indian movie because the visionary was an English.For Heaven's Sake, it is all in all an Indian movie,most of the crew in it is Indian(including Anil Kapoor, who acted all dramatic on the red carpet with weird expressions and silly smiles.Danny Boyle could have excluded him from the invitee list.He is such a loser). Well my health is still not in a very sound condition, I contracted a viral infection,so I am going to be lying low for a while.

Cheers!!!!

In Hibernation

I am just too sick.Will start blogging again when I get better and when I have something better to write about.
Happy Weekend!!!!

Feb the 19th

Just another day...Slept late,woke up with a sore throat.It sucks..Men are just so superficial creatures and also too selfish..I have vowed to myself to keep away from selfish people that I know,people who just get in touch when they feel so low in life.What when I feel low?How many of those creatures have been there for me?So Amigo Adios..

Also guys I tried Afghani cuisine for lunch today.It tastes awesome and is absolutely healthy.Try it out!!

Lesson: Don't have expectations especially from men.Don't be there for people who cant be there for you.

A Wednesday

Yesterday I was absolutely brain-drained.I ate,did a few usual chores and slept.I didn't give a thought to anything.I didn't read my book.I just hate it.I had my favorite-Tofu Broccoli for dinner.Orkut is such a waste of my time.I am hooked on to it almost the whole day and end up doing nothing.Addiction of any form to anything is not a good thing.I need to kick up this habit and start diverting my energies to something resourceful.I am addicted to coffee-that's not a good thing either.Coffee is so harmful to the body but I just cant stop drinking it.Infact my day begins with a huge cuppa cold coffee.

Lesson in life:Kick offf this habit of addictions.